Lance, (AKA Douche bag Wanker big man about town with attitude, as affectionately and lovingly named by consensus of the esoteric community) the husband of a Universal Medicine student, responds to attacks on his character and accusations of abuse
(First, I think it important to point out that in my understanding no complaint has been made about Lance to the police, and the accusations insofar as they refer to genuine verbal, emotional of physical abuse are unsubstantiated. – Venus)
It is really revealing to see all the women rushing onto Kyla’s vilifying post and support it wholeheartedly. If ever there needed to be evidence that it is Universal Medicine students are the abusers, there it is for everyone to see. They seem to be totally unconscious of how it looks and what a paradox it is to be totally abusive, and to smear two men (one I infer as myself, and said ball-less dude) they don’t know, and that a group of women, including some people I have helped out with no desire for reward, are jumping aboard to agree with vigorous head-nodding hoorays. I guess that is their kind way of saying thank you for my good deeds. No problem, anytime.
I have to say I find it bemusing more than insulting, though I think if it was reversed and we were ‘actually’ being demeaning as they are, then there would be a massive head popping explosion from the girls on that blog (and one young misguided boy) of self-righteous indignation.
The problem is we have never been abusive, demeaned them or even gossiped. Contrary to what Kyla asserts and the girls support without any knowledge, I have never been abusive to my wife. Particularly in the highly exaggerated way it is presented in the UM blogs. I have been diligent, caring, loving, supportive, and responsible – And I remain so. I am a good father, caring and fair. And for the record I don’t sell second hand cars and I haven’t had to resort to a douche bag… yet.
Abuse is one word that gets a ‘abused’ by ‘the students” and Serge. I think he has it tattooed in his brain. A loud discordant tone becomes ‘abuse’ followed by a diatribe on “domestic violence against women” and 47 posts on the subject. (Non-esoteric) People doget emotional, especially when a relationship with someone they love is suddenly in trouble out of the blue, and people do get angry for various reasons. Emotion lesson 101: Anger alone is not abuse. (for the record, these are called ‘emotions’ and despite what Serge might have you believe, they are normal, necessary and healthy. Trying not to feel this is insanity. It is how you deal with them.)
What seems common in this situation is when the UM partner refuses to discuss the situation and dismisses any concern about UM and its all encompassing, family time/money sapping nature as ‘jealousy’. I would argue that abuse can take many forms and can be more pernicious than the more overt forms that you guys like to bang on and accuse others of recklessly and endlessly – like avoiding the truth of UM, not explaining why certain choices are now mandatory, why music and certain foods are frowned upon, and why intimacy is a dirty word, and mostly why honest and open communication is withdrawn.
Our concerns are met with rebuttals as the dissenting partners discover, criticism of UM is met with denials and ‘gas-lighting’ (that is discrediting the critic – I give you Kyla and her fans and the master himself) Proper, frank and open discussions are not allowed because it would mean speaking about things that they do not want to confront. It is always the same when someone has a deeply held and fundamentalist belief, and I think it is the basis of all human conflict. In UM’s case, the beliefs are extreme and polarizing so the effect is even greater. Of course no member will admit this.
While I may profoundly disagree with Serge’s ideas, I don’t have an issue with people believing it, providing it leads to harmony and honesty and doesn’t get in my face or my life. But it does not. What these people fail to understand is that it is my right to tell my truth, just as much as they claim it is theirs. The issue is that it doesn’t accord with their sensitive belief systems and that I have a big issue with their leader. However, unlike them I am not going to get into calling them names and trying to depict them as the villains with infantile name calling. It seems to be standard operating procedure at UM and the followers learn early. Since this started there has been a steady stream of discrediting, storytelling, name-calling, and re-working of history. I have even seen people close to me that I have always regarded as paragons of honesty and fairness making unsubstantiated allegations without even taking a second to ask if it is true or offer the benefit of the doubt. I personally have gone from being extolled to picked-apart on the basis of the weakest pretexts, but clearly to justify beliefs that must be guarded even if it means destroying someone else. Again, a lesson from the master.
Amusingly, many of the general discrediting arguments (I am thinking of Deborah M here in particular) are and almost word for word regurgitations of Serge’s weekend ‘media-training’ workshop held recently which focused on how the media and certain people would conduct a witch-hunt, parables of Lindy Chamberlain, the Cathars, the Inquisition abounded. Stories of the evil doing of certain people were showered on the faithful who duly absorbed the information with gasps of horror, never thinking for a moment…”hang on that’s a bit convenient…maybe there is another side to the story…let me check”. These ‘arguments’ have been coming out of members mouths ever since. “Look into my eyes…let me tell you about the ‘media and the loveless detractors’…” And you wonder why we believe Serge has undue influence…
Why do I need to speak my truth? Because Serge personally became involved in my family and he passed summary judgements on me, which are both strange and untrue (good ‘ol vilification). In fact, his accusations sound exactly like a description of himself. The TRUTH is, that until that point I would have let it go while disagreeing with what was going on. When I saw that Serge is prepared to get into the minutiae of people’s lives and make profound judgements on people based on nothing but his own agenda, it was clear to me that the TRUTH of his behaviour had to be presented. I defend my right to do that and will continue to do so, despite being personally attacked, first by Serge, then my wife and now the cult at large. My guess is that because the cult members give Serge supernatural abilities, his “scurrilous” behaviour (and perhaps theirs) is justifiable in their minds. Well ladies, it isn’t – and more the point, if he was who he said he was, then he wouldn’t do it. End of story.
To help you out, because you have all been spoon fed some story which you all seem to be lapping up…It was not I or any local (pub or otherwise) that started the media attention on Serge. That shows a lack of imagination and certainly thoroughly dismisses the notion of any supernatural powers of perception that extend more than a few millimetres beyond his skull, least of all the entire cosmos. It was a happy co-incidence that Serge had ramped up his rhetoric of shedding pranic relationships resulting in quite a few unhappy chappies. Someone in QLD whose wife was taking the supplements called the TGA, and the rest is history. There is no conspiracy and no sneaking around “trolling”. We all know who we are, but unlike you we care about how our families even if they have been less than nice to us in the process of being esoteric.
There are manypeople who have been affected by Serge’s machine and they have found each other. In addition to that, there is interest from govt departments and relevant organisations that predates my awareness that UM is a cult. It shows a further lack of imagination to think that this comes down to a few people.
The media became interested because it is a GOOD STORY. Nothing else. And it continues to be one. You have a man claiming to be an enlightened master, the reincarnation of famous people, who does odd treatments (and there is a new more inappropriate one out now) makes grand claims, and it appears, handles the truth about himself carelessly…now there is a story. Wake up girls (and some boys) this had to happen.
Since this started the ground-swell of people opposed to Serge and what he does to people and families has grown. Many people have been silent for a long time. Many remain so even though they have been badly affected. UM is not well regarded because there has been so many families and relationships fractured because of it. You can keep telling yourself breakups are normal; but this isn’t normal in any way. Be it Bangalow, Brisbane, Sydney, Melbourne….the UK, Germany…wherever Serge goes families splintering and misery follows. The ‘reflection’ Serge is getting is inevitable. IF he is the master he says, and ‘the work’ is so wonderful and it is pranic resistance [he heroically predicated], why all the shrill hollering? Didn’t he also say he wanted to debate scientists and tell religious leaders the truth? Here is his big chance. Why is he blacking out windows and hiding behind the hateful words and judgment filled blog posts and applause of his women followers.
On the fatuitous and nasty claim that ‘the detractors’ are blaming their relationship issues on UM – if there are marriage issues then that is completely separate to the issue with UM and the way Serge operates. They could be dealt with separately….oh except that because I, like other non UM partners, have been characterised as a villain such communication is not forthcoming and not sought by the UM enchanted member.
It is insulting, stupid and sanctimonious for every UM’er to keep carping on that “the men are not working on their issues and blaming Serge/UM/the work for their inability to address their abusive behaviour”– a mindless and meaningless mantra if ever there was one; except that it is solely designed, originally by Serge’s hand and now part of the UM handbook, to discredit those who do not agree as incapable of having a valid argument, and moreover of being good enough to criticise Serge.
The tactic stinks and worse still it illustrates, just like Kyla’s post does, a wholesale inability to appreciate anyone else point of view or ‘feelings’ unless it accords with their own. Students, don’t make the assumption that because you are ‘doing the work’ that you are somehow more advanced. From where I sit it appears to be quite the opposite. Again, if you need evidence, it is Kyla’s blog and your responses to it supporting angry, judgmental, abusive invective. Where is the growth there?
The issue I have with Universal Medicine that stands alone from any relationship ones, is how UM becomes all encompassing to the detriment of any relationship. It is my firm belief, and it shared by many counsellors and experts I have spoken with since the trouble commenced, that any ideology that promotes men are (as a rule) “abusive” and only ‘able to have sex for relief” (TTD interview and elsewhere) and that women only have relationships to fill needs, that they are imposed upon them, and that ‘being afraid of being single is to do with old hurts” is going to contribute to any marriage or relationship issue that may exist. How can it not? Add the idea that “energies” and “entities” are being channelled by the man (and occasional woman) if he disagrees with Serge and UM and you have the perfect recipe for a breakdown in communications and a split. I am often left wondering what sort of man can be an agent for so many relationship breakdowns and not feel at least one twang of conscience. What type of man indeed…
Nowhere will you find Serge promoting unity in relationships or working on them if there are issues. Nowhere. And don’t worry I have looked. It is all the same urging women to reconsider their roles and how they view men and their relationships. If UM was about truth and love, then why this? And why even be involved in people lives? Life is about relationships. Avoiding them is a doctrine of avoidance. You can work on yourself and be with someone. In fact, if your relationship is at all one of affection and has some basis, you can work on yourself even more keenly as you have a reflection and support. Life should be about families and working towards resolutions and solutions. I hate to break the news, but – NEWSFLASH – Unimed stands for the exact opposite and the evidence is strewn around you.
A counsellor recently told me very succinctly that his view is a group or religion is destructive if it becomes an agent for family disunity. Universal Medicine ticks that box whole-heartedly.
And if you have come this far, let me ask you this. Why all the focus on women’s bodies and not at all men’s? It is not being facetious to ask why there is not “Esoteric men’s chest massage”, or “Esoteric men’s prostate massage”- is this healing and journey simply about women, or is it about something else? At bare minimum and ignoring any other imputations, the focus on women is clearly a part of what is a pro-woman and anti-men/relationship narrative.
No doubt I am barking into the wind. But I will keep doing it. The real witch-hunt is coming from your side. Kyla’s rant and character assassination and the mindless agreement by those who don’t know me (and worse still, those that do) and of my co-accused, is the thin edge of the wedge. If it was 400 years ago and it was Salem, we would be chased out of town by a pitch fork wielding mob chanting “unbelievers!”
Kyla’s rant aside, I realise I am not speaking in the correct UM language of counter-intuitive phrases peppered with the metaphor-loaded group words such love, loveless, truth, heart, imposing, choices, ironic, amazing…nor sharing some life changing event and attributing it to Serge or “the work” so I appreciate that you have stuck with me this far. For the record, and as my lovely (in the real sense of the word) wife knows, I have had many life changing moments, and all without the benefit of having ever known Serge; and I would say all the better for it.
We’re probably due an apology, but like getting the benefit of the doubt or a frank and open discussion, I don’t think it will be forthcoming. I do suggest if you have some ugly disparaging remark to make, or want to agree with someone making it, or wave your pitch-forks some more, come and see me and have the courage to tell me to my face, not on some smear blog and not in secret hidden emails between each other. Serge included. You know where I live.