In addition, listening to the audio, I’ve identified key words Serge uses to trigger trance states, as if by snapping his fingers. I was alerted to Serge’s use of hypnotic induction by loved ones who told me of students undergoing sudden, almost instantaneous regressions into states of dissociation following a short phone call from ‘The One’. One of these words is ‘connect’, including ‘reconnect’, as well as ‘truth’ and also ‘love’. In one recording, the word ‘connect’ is repeated during the meditation (hypnosis) session which precedes lectures 16 times in around two minutes. In the transcript below, ‘love’ and its derivatives are repeated 51 times in the first five minutes, and one can hear in the audio, from the silence of the audience, how captivated they are.
Be warned the content of the transcript will read confusingly, and it’s meant to. Serge’s lectures are not designed to make sense, to educate or inform or empower. They’re designed to entrance, to indoctrinate and to induce dissociation. Serge thereby controls the thoughts of the listener in order to engender dependency. At the end of the transcript, I’ll pull out the key phrases to distil its real meaning.
Many readers will have observed personality changes in their loved ones who are UM students, and the most remarked upon change is regression to unfeeling, non expressive, uncommunicative and often paranoid states. Bearing in mind Serge’s use of trance induction/hypnosis techniques, the content of the following passage may give some clues as to how this has occurred. I should point out, it’s not an isolated instance of Serge speaking about love this way. I’m still only four hours into the six hours of audio I have, and this programming is subtly and repeatedly reinforced throughout. In effect, Serge is indoctrinating his students to reject relationships with anyone outside UM for the sole purpose of securing their dependency on the cult. The dependency of students, of course, is key to UniMed’s cashflow.
In the meantime, Esoteric ‘love’ is essentially a state of self centred, unaffectionate and emotionally repressed inertia. A formula for shutting others out.
The following excerpt of a lecture by Serge Benhayon was recorded in early 2010. Note that the final paragraph was particularly ‘spherical’ and has been cut for brevity.
24:15 The hardness, the protection is a vascular condition that stops you from loving, because you’re protecting your heart from being hurt about not being loved. When we do this with no understanding whatsoever of how energy works. Because the moment you protect yourelf, you cannot love outward. For every force there’s an equal and opposite force in energy. The moment you stop love coming in because you think you’re going to get hurt, so too do you stop that love coming out. And you live, and you, well no, let me put it more blunt for you – you rot in your own dampness behind the wall that you put up, and then you blame the world for not loving you, but you’re on the other side of the wall holding this protection. Now what happens when you meet someone with a brick wall? You can’t love them because they won’t let you. And the more you try genuinely, the more they run away. Guess why they run away. Not because they don’t want the love, they do, they run away because if they should let it in, what would happen then if it didn’t last? The pain that that would mean is too huge, so they’d rather say I can see you’re trying to love me, but if I do let you in and should you leave me one day, the devastation is too huge, therefore I will keep the wall. That’s why a lot of people don’t let love in. Not because they don’t want to let the love in, because should they let it in and experience everything they’ve always wanted, should that go away, then it’s an enormous problem to deal with. But that’s all an illusion, because once you let it in, if you do let it in and the person does go away, you say ‘see you later, I’ve got it.’
‘I’m love now. I never needed you anyway.’
It’s the trick. All you have to do is let your guard down and you’re love. You don’t need someone to love you. Cos the truth is no one can love you. You are love. You can feel someone’s love of themselves and you can join that, and that’s beautiful. That’s what making love is about. You cannot be loved. You can be cared and nurtured. You cannot be loved. You can’t send love, it’s impossible. Love is a livingness. You can have love in your hands when you touch. You can have love in your hands when you make cup of tea – non caffeinated. You can have love in everything that you do. You can have love in your arms, so when you hug someone, you hold them, you can have a totally open heart. So when you hug, they feel it all the way to their bones. Everything that you do when you walk is love and there, that way, they can feel your love. But you can’t love them in the way that we think love is. You cannot love someone. You can only be love and they can feel and enjoy that. So if you are demanding that your partner is to love you, and that you are not enough because they don’t love you, you are in one hell of an illusion. You are in one hell of a huge arrogance. There’s no such thing as hell, I’m just playing with that word. You are arrogant. Because you are waiting to be changed by what someone can do, which they can’t do because it’s impossible. You cannot receive love from another. You can only love and be love and then if you allow yourself to feel that a person’s in love, you get inspired to be love yourself, then you two of you are in-love with yourselves. And should you do things together, then you’re making love. That’s how it works. It’s not something you can give another. You can’t love your puppies.
You cannot love your little golden puppy retrievers. The cutest dog you can find, don’t think you can love them. You can only be love and the dog goes, ‘what she’s trying to love me, (groans)’ They wag their tails, yeah I’ll keep them in the illusion. They get happy because they get met and it’s caring and might be nurturing, but you cannot love your dog. You can only be love and when you are love, watch what happens to the dog. When you are love and you’re with the dog, they completely change. And guess what? They do something we don’t like.
(Pauses. Long silence.) When we are love, and we’re with the dog, they do something we don’t like.
(Pauses. Silence.) See you all next week. (Laughs) Audience laughter.
They stop pandering. But we need them to pander don’t we. We need them to be all things for us. We enjoy that because it’s the attention we didn’t get from Mum and Dad or from our partners currently. And so we like that, and the dog likes giving it to us and it’s an emotional interchange. But when you become love, what does the dog do? They become love and they go ‘I don’t need to do anything. I can lie next to you but I’ll be lazy because this is amazing.’ They do. They get really really quiet when you’re love, because there’s no need. See we train them to do things. We’re doing exactly what was done to us. If you do you shoelace correctly. If you do your bed correctly, if you spell correctly, if you do your maths correctly, if you bring home an A, if you’re the prettiest, if you brush your hair, if you brush your teeth. If you do all the things, then you get my favour. That’s how we treat our dogs. Sit, shake hands… yeah good boy, roll over, die…and we reward them, so we’re parenting them in the same way that we were parenting them instead of meeting them and saying if you don’t want to sit, you don’t need to sit, but you can sit. When I need you to sit, I’d like you to sit, but you don’t have to sit all the time just because I tell you to. And if you treat a dog like that, you’ll see that they become a totally different being, and when you’re with them it’s love, and there’s an equalness and you can feel them as an equal as opposed to keeping them as the animal that has to feed you all the needs you don’t have in life. True, honesty is a great start…How did I get on to that? Oh yeah, vascular conditions. The protection…I digressed but not really. It’s all spherical, it all means the same thing.
Yes, Serge, it’s all bullshit.
Now the distillation. Using Serge’s words and cutting the surplus. Here’s what he’s saying:
You’re hurt about not being loved. You rot. You blame the world for not loving you. You can’t love them because they won’t let you in. The more you try, the more they run away. Love doesn’t last and the pain is too huge. But…I’ve got it. I’m love now. I never needed you anyway. It’s the trick. You don’t need someone to love you. No one can love you. You are love. You cannot be loved. You can’t send love. You cannot love someone. You are arrogant. You cannot receive love. It’s not something you can give another. We need them to be all things for us. I don’t need to do anything. You are keeping them as an animal to feed all the needs you have in life.
Yes, God forbid human beings have emotional needs. And God forbid love – real love – might be an exchange – a process of giving and receiving which benefits and enriches all involved, or that performing acts of love, which may involve some sacrifice and may transcend obsessive self interest might be some of the most significant things you ever do in your life.
Serge used puppies to refer to his students’ emotional neediness. But if we view the dialogue above in terms of relating to other human beings, it’s saying Esoteric love is only possible by shutting down, being passive, and can only be shared with an equally self centred, uncommunicative and atrophied individual. That strikes me as a peculiar arrangement, with limited duration because narcissists tend to gravitate toward those they can control.
Now I understand why children of UM cult members experience confusion and separation anxieties. Esoteric love is responsible for rupturing countless adult relationships, but translates to emotional deprivation and neglect when imposed on children. Children require regular, sincere, demonstrative affection and reassurance, verbally and physically for their emotional sustenance and development.
Dogs lie down and do nothing, not because they’re being ‘love’, but because they’re lacking stimulation. Because they’re bored. Or tired.
I’ll add that a reader contacted me in distress over a close friend and UM student’s post natal depression, including difficulty bonding with her baby. The reader asked me to write about how Serge sabotages mothering, but at the time I hadn’t done enough research to unearth direct evidence. The above is a start, and combine that with evidence I’ve found from the original Esoteric Breast Massage blurbs and some EDG notes that mothers transmit ‘ill energy’ through their breast milk, and that IVF babies have no souls, and you have a recipe for maternal catastrophe.
It’s the trick…Sit, shake hands, roll over, die.
A psychiatrist acquaintance once told me slips of the tongue, and Serge has more than average, are extremely revealing.
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Waterfield, R, 2003, Hidden Depths: The Story of Hypnosis, Brunner Routledge, New York, Hove.