Cult leader, Serge Benhayon, is a fairly ordinary, not so clever bloke who can only establish himself as Universal Medicine’s alpha male by disparaging competing men via thought reform indoctrination. Based on derogatory stereotypes, his ‘occult philosophy’ demonizes so called ‘male’ traits of sexual desire, intellect and physical activity to encourage followers to reject anyone who doesn’t subscribe to the cult. Followers are then sold the remedy of ‘femaleness’ to make them more compliant and keep them dishing out the cash. In this final instalment in the Esoteric manhood series, we look at how Benhayon exploits the trope of male emotional inferiority to disempower cult men and turn women against his competitors.
Exploiting the wounded male
Playing to his mostly female following, Benhayon cashes in on a common assumption that women are emotionally superior to men. (A short read of the infantile, self centred and denialist student blogs is sufficient to persuade us otherwise.)
The woman is energetically and emotionally more capable, whereas a man has to defy that by holding himself in a way that makes him look rock solid, strong, and able…albeit, against his natural nature. (Benhayon, 2011, p.566)
Even if one accepts the assumption women are more emotionally capable, Benhayon’s advice to men is still extremely problematic, particularly when he states that emotions cause cancer.
Cancer comes from our emotions. There is a way of being that men are living up to the age of 55 that is producing a way of being that brings an energy through their system that delivers men the 1 in 2 prostate cancer rates – because everything is energy, everything is because of energy: then men – how have you been energetically living for the first 55 years? (Benhayon, 2011, p.557)
Men do not fully express their love, they have ingrained behaviours. Therefore they carry disharmony. You can’t talk to a man until he has really suffered, really been hurt in love or really affected by disease. Men do not want to see the havoc they have created by not being love. (Benhayon, Esoteric Development Group Lecture, October 2011, student notes)
It’s difficult to imagine how an emotionless man can express love, let alone be hurt in love, yet Benhayon infers the only good man is a broken one. As we’ve learned from Esoteric Women’s Health marketing, Universal Medicine targets those debilitated by loss, abuse or illness – individuals vulnerable to predators parading as healers. Also, following the ’emotions give you cancer’ logic, if women are emotionally more capable, does it mean they are more capable of shutting down emotionally or better at getting cancer?
Tapping the inner wimp
Benhayon has also made good money from the New Age fashion for grown adults to emotionally cling to flawed upbringings and play the victim well into adulthood. (Again, read the insufferable middle-aged histrionics of the student blogs.) When targeting ‘maleness’ and cult men, he exploits the fad for men to portray themselves as emotionally debilitated if at times they overvalued intellect or enjoyed sport. For example, ‘my mummy and daddy didn’t let me cry when I was a little boy but I did well at school tests and therefore I must be a semi neanderthal middle aged loser bully and I drank a beer and watched football matches and enjoyed it once in a while so my life was worthless before I joined the cult, boo hoo, etc.’
Benhayon will have it that beneath the exterior of every man is a blubbering infant.
You are never a lesser man by expressing how delicate you are, but always less when you do not. (Benhayon, 2011, p.553)
Most men use their ingrained behaviour to bury the hurt they choose not to deal with. It is this that gives them the intellectual might they think they have in the utter illusion of the narrowness they use to define themselves. (Benhayon, 2011, p.556)
The deepest ill men carry is rejection – it is at the core of all their issues. (Benhayon, 2011, p.557)
A man dare not admit that he is just as sensitive as a woman, and that words hurt him far more than any punch. (Benhayon, 2011, p.558)
Again we have that great Esoteric inconsistency (mind fuck) at work. Benhayon regards non cult men as loveless and unfeeling, yet emotions are evil and the cause of all disease. He wants men to show their ‘deeply caring’ nature, at the peril of ruining their daughters’ lives, but to do so without cancer causing emotion.
If a man were to truly love his daughter, that is, by showing in full his affection and deeply caring nature, she will not ever let a lesser way of being marry her. (Benhayon, 2011, p. 563)
You’re meant to be.
Men should cry more often – each tear will be like a brick coming off the protective wall. (Benhayon, 2011, p.561)
Oh yes, Serge wants men to cry, and to strip them down emotionally. Women too, seeing he’s an equal opportunity tyrant. He’ll make sure his followers keep crying, seeing their relationships and lives will go to crap for a bunch of parasitial ‘self-loving choices’, including trying to ‘deeply care’ while suppressing their emotions.
Men don’t live as they truly are.
A man either seeks to satisfy or to push everybody away. Both of these come from being rejected as who they truly are. (Benhayon, 2011, p.559)
For men, large breasts, beer, sport and remote controls are but distant fillers that get given primary attention because any love they may get is not for who they truly are. (Benhayon, 2011, p.560)
But they need Serge to tell them ‘who they truly are’, and if they don’t fit his emotionally stunted model, they’re branded abusers.
Real men love, consider, take care and nurture. Subvert the real man and he will easily discount and hurt you. (Benhayon, 2011, p.561)
Rather than encourage them to get some proper, qualified therapy and/or grow up, Serge programs the grown infants in the cult he calls ‘real men’ to eliminate intellect and reasoning in order to narcissistically sensitize themselves to emotionless ‘feeling’ – and then raise their sons in the same stultifying milieu of disempowerment.
A man identifies with his physical strength at a very early age. If this does not work, he will escape into his mind not long thereafter and use that as his strength. We ought to let our young boys feel who they truly are and NOT tell them what they need to be. (Benhayon, 2011, p.560)
As examined in the previous post, intellect is portrayed as incompatible with feeling, and ideals or beliefs other than those autocratically instilled by the cult are demonized and labelled as the seeds of aggression and cruelty.
Let men be men, and let ideals and beliefs remain as things in one’s mind. (Benhayon, 2011, p. 564)
Do you let your boy grow up to be all that he naturally is in his heart, or do you fill him with all the ideals and beliefs that are supposed to make him a man? (Benhayon, 2011, p. 564)
Impose on a young boy your ideals and beliefs, and you will have the perfect cruelty machine. (Benhayon, 2011, p.560)
Do you want love-filled boys to grow up to be men or, do you prefer tough, rugged and mindful boys to become that as men? (No need to ponder on this one, history and Mother Earth have already done it for you – the battle scarred and bloodstained lands everywhere are begging for the former.) (Benhayon, 2011,p.565)
Having primed his followers with derogatory stereotyping, Benhayon turns the sexes against each other, disrupting sexual relationships and mashing gender roles to mould all followers into his ideal of compliant ‘femaleness’.
Let a man know that anything other than his natural caring love will not be accepted. He will then learn that he cannot get away with being less than he truly is. (Benhayon, 2011, p.562)
If a man is rude and or disrespectful, let him sleep alone that night. (Benhayon, 2011, p.562)
Except we know natural caring love has ‘not an ounce of emotion in it’. (Benhayon, 2006, p.26) So cult men and boys, like the women and girls, are expected to be caring and feeling, but without emotion, intellect, beliefs or ideals. And once cult followers become defensive about the time and money expended on harmful cult indoctrination as well as emotionally shut down due to Serge’s manipulation, their partners, most often males, are likely to be upset. Self loving cult followers programmed to view emotional expression as toxic and ‘abusive’ take such reactions as a cue to further alienate partners and spouses, which is only a step away from a visit to Universal Law solicitors in Mullumbimby.
To drive the wedge further, it’s women’s fault men are a mess. Women are guilty of both accepting ‘less than true love’ and rejecting men as ‘they truly are’.
Men have lost their way because women have lost themselves. (Benhayon, 2011, p.557)
Understand that men have a long way to heal and recover who they truly are. But you women be patient, for it is you who have allowed him to stray that far by accepting anything less than true love. (Benhayon, 2011, p.563)
Mothers attempt to make their young sons all that is lacking in and from their husbands/partners. This is one of the first forms of rejection for the yet to be man. (Benhayon, 2011, p.558)
And it’s men’s fault women are a mess.
Women are craving any form of touch – this is because they craved the true love they did not get from their fathers. Be wise – any form of touch is no substitute for true love and its touch. (Benhayon, 2011, p.525)
We don’t stand here and go how did this lump happen or why am I infertile, why can’t I fall pregnant, because you haven’t been a woman for 30 years, you’ve been using menful energy to please your dad, you’ve been using male energy, you’ve been involved in sport which women should never be because they’re competitive…(S. Benhayon, audio transcript from EDG lecture, 2010)
The picture of Esoteric manhood
Even the more amenable goddesses from traditional mythologies are complex, flawed and rarely wholly submissive, ‘nurturing’ or gentle. Rather he’s manipulated both sexes into an homogenized model of unquestioning passivity – transforming them into emotionally, intellectually and sexually neutered lines of credit.
The model of Esoteric manhood has ‘feelings’ but no emotions, rejects intellect, beliefs and ideals, and has no sex drive, no physical strength and doesn’t engage in sport.
Oh well, there used to be images of five Esoteric ‘real men’ posted here (Michael Benhayon, Chris James, cult psychologist Brendan Mooney and Esoteric naturopath Steffen Messerschmidt) until the poor pets pissed in their pants and enacted a copyright infringement notice for use of their EPA mugshots, issued by Flawless Imaging’s Clayton Lloyd who made a nice little pay packet for taking a large number of mugshots that are unlikely to make it onto the Esoteric Practitioner Association’s promised practitioner directory/shame page.
Benhayon, S. The Way It Is, UniMed Publishing, Goonellabah, 2006
Benhayon, S. Esoteric Teachings & Revelations, UniMed Publishing, Goonellabah, 2011