Why is it not acceptable in society
- for a father to hug his teenage son as he did when he was a boy?
- for a father to hug his daughter when she becomes a woman for fear of it being interpreted as sexual?
- for a man to hug another man?
- If one is contracted/reserved you don’t know what energy comes through a hug. If you are open its all there to see. Serge Benhayon, quoted in notes taken by Michael Dixon. Esoteric Development Group lecture, 19 February, 2011.
Who says it’s unacceptable for parents to hug grown children? Who, apart from a minority of diseased individuals, construes physical affection between parents and children as sexual?
In saying ‘if you are open its (sic) all there to see’, Benhayon appears to be suggesting that people should suspect their parents have sexual intentions if they receive a hug from them. It’s consistent with Benhayon’s attempts to divide families in order to secure loyalty to him and his cult.
Personal boundaries within the Benhayon family
His automatic suspicion of the intent of parental affection brings his own personal boundary transgressions into sharp focus, including the image above showing Benhayon with his hand on very young woman’s bottom. It comes from a workshop manual I received in 2005 when I attended my first and last Sacred Esoteric healing workshop. Natalie Benhayon was 15 years old at the time and was attending the same workshop, learning her father’s techniques.
At the workshop, participants were repeatedly put into trance states, whereupon many, including myself, experienced physical cathartic reactions, including speaking in tongues, screaming, convulsing, crying and in some cases, vomiting. Serge ran around the room while these reactions were underway telling us the reactions were the entities we’d taken on from past lives leaving our bodies. We’d been archangels who were burned at the stake, murdered, disembowelled, raped and tortured. At the workshop, Natalie was wearing the same white hooded sweatshirt worn in the image above. The photograph was clearly recent.
Like the rest of his teachings, Benhayon’s views on morality are confused and idiosyncratic. He casts suspicion on parental affection, advocates non sexual hugging, but then pushes personal boundaries beyond acceptable limits by persuading followers it’s necessary to handle a very young girl’s bottom and chest and call it healing.
Personal boundaries within the Benhayon family are unconventional to say the least. The image above and more found in the workshop manual show that Serge is liberal when it comes to touching the bodies of very young women, but controlling of his children’s behaviour. We know from a young woman who stayed in the Benhayon household that Serge asks that the bathroom door is left open when guests and family are showering. We also know that Benhayon is tyrannical about who his daughter associates with, and that she discarded her studies in drafting and engineering to become an ascended master, ovarian reader, unqualified director of Esoteric Women’s Health Pty Ltd and expert in nail painting. Like her father, she has followers rather than friends and associates mostly with family. She’s also participated in her inappropriate behaviour with cult children – having kids as young as 12 make group disclosures of sexual activity, and alcohol, drug and porn use.
Benhayon has also made an example of her when demonstrating desirable sexualised energy as opposed to Esoterically correct non sexual energy, putting her onstage at 20 years of age to mess with followers’ minds.
Just before this EDG we had our first Esoteric Movement-the yoga of joy class. Serge, Natalie and Curtis have introduced this to us to help us to release pockets of prana that we have held in our bodies. It was awesome to experience. At the EDG Serge asked Natalie to do the movements that help release the sacrum and hips. Natalie did that to Michael’s music. She looked so beautiful doing it. Then she deliberately pulled in the music of salsa and moved to that and you could see how it changed her. Her movements became movements done to draw us in and it was asking us to see her as a “good dancer” and to see her as desirable. It felt quite awful and Natalie said it was actually physically hurting her.
Natalie then went onto say that the moves were not hers, they were not impressed from her soul and so were harming her. The movements that Serge, Natalie and Curtis have come up with to help us release things in our bodies have being impressed from their soul and so they can pass them onto us. (Elizabeth Dolan, Esoteric Development Group student notes, August 20, 2011)
Boundary transgressions marketed as healing
Universal Medicine followers accept the abusive practice of Esoteric Breast Massage as performed by Serge’s ‘energetically responsible’ Brides, and similarly embrace his handling of genitals because he tells them the practices are not sexual.
First and foremost basic rule – the practice of Esoteric Massage is not to be an excuse to touch another for one’s pleasure and or to ful-fill any needs. Esoteric Massage is not to be sexual in any way whatsoever. (Benhayon, S., Esoteric Body Work, Esoteric Massage Level 1 Manual, p.3)
We’ll take his word for it, seeing he’s a man of utmost integrity. That’s clear from the images.
The manuals are filled with shots of Benhayon with his hands on the chests of the young woman and the other, older treatment model. In spite of the cult going Esoterically ballistic in 2012 year assuring the public Serge never touched a breast, shots in the manual show he clearly has.
No doubt the cult will go into another round of conniptions insisting, as mystic dentist, Dr Rachel Hall put it, there’s ‘not a single whiff of sexual overtones‘ to Benhayon’s behaviour. In spite of the text accompanying several images portraying them as healings for sexual abuse, and in spite of his obsession with sexual violence and gynaecological disorders as evidenced in numerous quotes from his writings, lectures and publicity. Rebecca Baldwin and the rest of SergeProp will probably launch into some tirade about how the touching shown in these images is innocent and harmless, because it’s done with utmost energetic integrity by an Esoteric eunuch, and the pure and wholesome Esoteric nuns, including themselves.
Why is that touching necessary? Why does Benhayon need to touch breasts, chests and genitals at all? If he’s going to represent himself as someone entitled to treat people, including sexual abuse survivors, why can’t he perform hands on healing that cannot in any way be misconstrued as inappropriate?
The majority of body workers are able to do their jobs without touching bottoms, chests and genitals. Legitimate, qualified sexual abuse counsellors don’t touch patients at all. Benhayon would not only appear to be an exhibitionist pervert who wants to make sure he’s caught, but if his only treatment options are to handle erogenous areas, he’s also a lousy therapist with seriously limited skills.
Returning to the image posted above, Benhayon tells us that sadness from the heart is stored in the sacrum. Even if we accept that as Esoterically correct or whatever, can we really accept that the only way to ‘release sadness back up to the heart’ is to press hands on someone’s bottom? A teenage girl’s bottom?
The other problem with that image is that Benhayon’s fingertips might be at the level of the girl’s sacrum, but the palm of his hand is pressing well below that and below the tip of the coccyx as well. The image below shows the anatomical location of the sacrum (a bone located below the spine). (Note that official training institutions in Australia only use images featuring male models for acupuncture point location. It’s telling UM have taken issue with this image – used here to illustrate how far Serge’s hand is from the actual sacrum – but not with unqualified Serge pressing his hand to women’s anuses and crotches and scamming his followers that it’s ‘healing’.)
So Serge, if you’re going to make up bullshit excuses to grope at young girls, at least get the anatomy right.
Boundary pushing, a Universal Medicine cult special
In the Universal Medicine cult, bodywork is used as a means of breaking down personal boundaries. Followers are more likely to disclose personal histories, including medical histories or histories of abuse after being relaxed and softened up by Esoteric touching. We’ve also seen how UM brazenly invades privacy through the use of bogus consent forms. When followers have no secrets they are forced to place trust in the group and toe the line for fear of having their private pasts used against them. This leaves them open to exploitation, which in UM is the marketing of ineffectual, habit forming ‘healing’ that ends up being detrimental to health and relationships.
Cult leader, Serge Benhayon pushes personal boundaries out of compulsion and a desire for dominance, and I’ve said it before, he fully intends to make his followers complicit in the abuse. The cult’s doctors and allied health professionals are aware of all the above images and techniques and have not only done nothing to stop it, but have wholeheartedly participated. When they’re not callous, spineless, foolhardy enablers, they’re complicit abusers.
We also know loved ones of UM students have had their personal histories broadcast among vindictive cult members to be used against them. From all of the above we can conclude there is zero respect for personal boundaries in the Universal Medicine cult.
Serge and his enablers know that people with healthy personal boundaries, who protect their privacy, their bodies and their loved ones, are difficult, if not impossible to exploit. Trusting souls who like to think the best of people and don’t have their guard up from the outset are prey to the pyramid of abuse that is Universal Medicine. They pay exorbitantly to have their personal boundaries and privacy eroded, until they find they’ve become the property of the cult.