In the Universal Medicine cult, parents are portrayed as damaging influences in individuals’ lives, unless they comply with Serge Benhayon’s Esoteric ideas on raising children. Esoteric parenting is a confused affair of emotionless love, infantilized adults and hypermature children, and again, Serge’s decrees direct followers’ devotions away from loved ones to the parasitial cult. Too bad that children depend on their parents for the majority of their needs.
A previous post on Esoteric compassion examined how Benhayon’s teachings demonizing emotion, compassion and empathy go a long way to explaining the high rate of relationship and family breakdown among Universal Medicine students. Following that, the Esoteric relationship post looked at Esoteric ‘connection’ – SergeSpeak for cognitive and emotional disengagement and how Benhayon argues that emotions are toxic and disease producing, emotional needs are signs of weakness and other human beings are merely sources of ‘hurt’.
Children are not spared from the destruction, with Benhayon propagating intrafamilial divisiveness along familiar lines of disparaging personality traits that might challenge allegiance to the cult.
Esoteric child development – it’s all downhill
Benhayon deifies children, equating their displays of innocent honesty with special access to Esoteric ‘truth’.
Let go of all separate teachings, beliefs and ideals. The ‘light of oneness’ is your light within. Engender this light and you will feel another within you. Then all you will feel is the oneness of all.
Clairsentience is the faculty that can make the above phrase be known as a simple living truth…although, not so easily in those who continually choose to lock themselves inside their own head. In those that cannot, it just demonstrates that they are in very great inner pain. Forget not that in the inner-most there is no pain, but love…
At the primary school level clairsentience is still very active, particularly in children between five and eight years of age…
Children do not need clairsentience to be taught, just enhanced…
Young children naturally live by it. Children just know it; they just don’t get asked or are not encouraged or are not acknowledged by it. They live in the connection of the interconnectedness until the current system and our current way of life stops supporting what they know to be a natural truth…the adults sustaining this separative way of existing were once the children that only knew the livingness of one. (Benhayon, 2007, pp. 368-371)
We are fully aware adults before we are children to do it all over again. Ponder on the fact that deep within this is known. (Benhayon, 2011, p.500)
We have to be very careful we do not sabotage our young for delivering the truth. If we give them the freedom of expression, everything is available to them. They can be a 4th degree initiate just like that. Anonymous note taker, Esoteric Development Group lecture notes, Oct 2010.
M*** (name of 10 year old girl withheld) goes on to say how she finds it difficult being herself around others (taking responsibility for it and not blaming the others). How she feels like in a tug-o-war but shes holding both ends of the rope and all she needs to do is let go of one end and then be herself. All 4th degree initiate stuff. Kids know it all it is us as adults and parents that try to squash it because we don’t want to hear truth. EDG notes, Oct 16 2010, taken by Michael Dixon
However, children’s advanced capacity for ‘truth’ deteriorates as they mature.
Turning 16 years of age is not an ongoing permission to hold yourself hardened by society’s ideals and or your upbringing. (Benhayon, 2011, p.551)
- Allow yourself to feel first, choose fire and than think with fire.
- Kids do this naturally, but eventually the word teaches you to stop feeling and start thinking, and we develop a shield to get through life…
- We take our shield through life, we have devised a way through life and the shield delivers it for us – we put out the shield and thus get it back.
- No-one gets to know the real you, it is all shield to shield communications.
- When people open up to someone, have a deep conversation about themselves – it is only a deeper part of the shield – not the true person.
- Up until the end of nine years old you try to stay open and try to live without the shield but by 14yo (women) and 16yo (men) the shield is up.
- No one ever wants to know how you truly are, just what you do and as parents we endorse shields by not connecting to our children. Anonymous note taker, EDG notes, April 2011.
For all of Benhayon’s whining about ‘separation’ he’s unable to comprehend the scope of an integrated personality. Again, he portrays thinking as incompatible with feeling. Natural developmental improvements in intellectual capacity, reasoning skills, independent assertiveness and the establishment of psychological autonomy are negatively regarded as a ‘shield’ and a departure from who children ‘truly are’. Someone who sucks their thumb, wets the bed, cries when the biscuits run out and can fixate for hours on Spongebob Squarepants is characterized as an advanced soul, rather than as an impressionable child requiring guidance, security and protection. Mature individuals capable of questioning and challenging the incoherent ramblings of a paternalistic cult despot are rejected as ‘loveless’ and in ‘inner pain’.
We are teaching kids to have this amazing recall/memory to do well at school. We reward them for their times tables; we give them a gold star if they spell correctly, run fast, tackle hard and or score a goal. It is no wonder they grow up to self-abuse without knowing it, when there was no reward or recognition for one loving oneself. (Benhayon, 2011, p.489)
It’s not only thinking that’s incompatible with self-love, but the development of fitness and physical strength.
Admire a boy’s strength and he will become strong – Admire a boy’s intelligence and he will become very smart. Admire the real him and you will see God’s Love. (Benhayon, 2011, p.561)
Providing children with parental guidance and support is regarded as interference. Note that making sure a child is ‘met’ has to be done without emotion.
All a child wants is to be truly met. This means seeing them for who they are and not what they need to be for you or for the ideals and beliefs of this world. Once this occurs, they know what to do next and for the rest of their lives. (Benhayon, 2011, p.489)
Esoteric parenting therefore precludes any outward expression whatsoever. Without input of emotions, ideals or thought, cult children magically discover their own direction on the Esoteric path. Non esoteric parenting also interferes with children’s karma.
The death cycle prepares you to “pass-over” and then in your next life you are given the first 12 years to “juice up” your body before all your karma is given to you at the age of 12/13. If we understand this as parents we would consider more deeply about how we are as parents. Are we allowing our kids to start clear so that when they get to their teenage years they can deal with their karma or are we impregnating them with ideals and beliefs before they even have a chance to deal with their own karma? EDG notes, February 2012, taken by Elizabeth Dolan.
‘Karma’ here is SergeSpeak for the onset of psychological independence around age 12, and the Esoterically loathsome qualities that come with intellectual development, such as questioning and answering back.
Esoteric hypocrisy – allowing children free ‘truthful’ expression
Parents are accused of inhibiting their 4th level initiate children’s ‘truth’.
Everything is available to our children when they are given the choice to freely express without needing to please us or anybody else. But we deeply subvert that open potential when they learn that they need to say what we want to hear. (Benhayon, 2011, p.458)
- Freedom of expression is giving them the ability to express without having to please you or others around them. When they feel free, no pressure to calibrate, there is an enormous explosion of fire that will clear them and bless us with their clarity and insight.
- We cannot give off an energy that we are afraid of being exposed, but give them permission to say fully what they feel.
- It is sad, but true, we suppress any child that has more light than us…If you live in jealously of not taking your light forward your are inadvertently sabotaging the children. EDG notes, Oct 2010 Anon
Yet, UniMed followers routinely suppress their children and severely restrict their freedom. Cult children are not free to eat numerous nutritious foods that have been put on Serge’s EVIL and PRANIC list. They’re restricted from taking part in sport and dance classes, and when active, running around noisily as normal, healthy children do, they’re reprimanded for being ‘racy’ and not ‘in stillness’. They’re also prohibited from listening to non cult music – the Wiggles are presumably regarded as PRANIC! And when children express themselves in ways contrary to the Esoteric programming, they’re not heard.
A recent exchange in the comments area described some of the negative effects on cult children. One of our contributors, Winston, noted about a follower’s 10 year old son:
They believe “children do truth” but why is it so when I have experienced it first hand her son’s absolute rebellion to his mother’s beliefs so much that he would go absolutely crazy when she tried to take him to a practitioner? His mother was told by the practitioner that in his past life he was a slave with some obscure relationships to Cathars?
In spite of the child expressing his ‘clarity and insight’, including some severe distress at being dragged to a weirdo Esoteric healer, he was inflicted with an account of a hypothetical past life as a member of a religious minority that was persecuted and butchered.
Discount a child’s feelings, and you have the perfect robot to do as he/she is told for life. Rebellion is the same robot just choosing to hurt back. (Benhayon, 2011, p.305)
Rather than being free to express their ‘truth’, cult children, like all Universal Medicine followers have their inner most truth and their emotionless feelings dictated to them, with the assistance of covert hypnosis presented as ‘meditation’.
As children we are not taught the language of how to express what we are feeling.
Loss of memory from childhood is not memory but the fact of shutting down, open up and you will be able to feel exactly what your childhood was like.
Open yourself up to feel again and this allows you to learn to speak the truth of what you are feeling.
We than did a meditation – breath your own breath – be you. EDG lecture notes, February 2011, Anonymous note taker
Domestic misery, Esoteric style
Serge Benhayon describes all childhood experiences as negative. There’s not one word in his teachings about parenting or childhood being positive or fulfilling experiences.
- We all feel EVERYTHING but we don’t give ourselves permission to be aware of it _
- We tend to shut down at an early age – making the choice to ignore what one feels.
- As children, the ‘Gods’ of our world are our parents. They are our first relationship.
- We tend to put them on a pedestal- they present our first experience of the world.
- We see them fight, argue, lie, drink, be sad, be manipulative etc etc. We feel this all but it is too much to feel from our parents and we calibrate, we shut down.
- Babies can feel the emotion in mothers milk which may cause them to choke on it. EDG lecture notes taken by Michael Dixon, 19 February 2011
On Planet Serge, children never see their parents negotiate, compromise, agree, deal with difficulties in emotionally dignified ways, enjoy life or act selflessly, warmly and affectionately in children’s best interests. Serge Benhayon makes sure of it.
The next post, on self-loving parents and divided families, looks at Benhayon’s damning views on familial karma, his narcissistic ideal of parenting and how his teachings turn family members against each other to the advantage of the cult.
Upcoming posts include a look at personal boundaries within the Benhayon family, and toxic Esoteric motherhood, where Benhayon seeks to come between mothers and their children, beginning at infancy.
Benhayon, S., A Treatise on Consciousness, UniMed Publishing, Goonellabah, 2007
Benhayon, S., Esoteric Teachings & Revelations, UniMed Publishing, Goonellabah, 2011